Are you in an Abusive Relationship? Find out here.
Before you can fully identify and understand domestic violence, you have to have a clear view of what it really is and where you actually are in the scenario. The following test will help you see where you stand, in a general sense, in comparison to the abusive situations of other victims.
Take the following test and assign the number between 1 and 5 that most closely resembles your thoughts and reactions to each given situation. 1 is the least or best, while 5 is the most or worse. Use a sliding scale in your mind to arrive at the appropriate number for your response; you can even use half numbers to be more accurate. The five suggested responses are only examples for you to use to understand the question and to help you pick your answers. Your situation may not be exactly like the examples (maybe you don’t cry when scared or mad, but freeze up instead, or maybe they don’t yell, but instead speak ominously and quietly), but still select the number between 1 and 5 that most closely reflects your situation as it does exist, from good to bad, in each area brought up by the questions.
Your responses to this test will show you where your relationship stacks up compared to others. If, after taking the test, you find your relationship is not in good shape, you need to start thinking about what you’re going to do about it, and how. Abuse doesn’t get better with time. The character of the abuse may change, but the bottom line is that if there’s a lack of respect now . . . there will be a lack of respect later.